Question:

[wolven7]

What do you find sexy? And don't just say "You, baby," with that eyebrow waggling way of typing oyu have, or "Monkeys," with that knowing nod, even if it's true.

Think about it.

What do you find sexy? What turns you on?

And if you haven't figured out why I would ask this question, you really haven't been paying attention.

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Comments

[okkitten.livejournal.com]

Thunderstorms. And guys/girls drinking milk from the carton in their underwear. Or OJ if they don't like milk.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

I can see the last one, but not the exact mechanism for it.. That's pretty cool though. Domestic, even ;)

[okkitten.livejournal.com]

It's the sort of sensuality that comes with seeing someone barefoot. Seeing them in a relaxed state like that where they are just at home and doing their thing, like drinking from the carton and not totally dressed. It's a very sexy state of closeness that a lot of people take for granted in their relationships.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Like i said: Domestic. *nods* :)

[unknownbinaries.livejournal.com]

Intensity. A certain danger. Challenge. That wicked grin. Teasing, or being teased. A good fight with the right person. A sharp pain and a soft touch. Beautiful hands. Watching you rant and make connections, and the fire in your eyes/head, then.

Quite a bit, actually. >;)

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Always better to have many avenues of stimulation open to you, rather than always be stuck in one, i say.

Hmm...

It's entirely different at so many times, based on mood.

[thenowhere.livejournal.com]

Cold, slick, sharp, shining, black.
Pain, hot, heat, red.
White, pure, soft, sweetness.
Green, rich, thick, wet, lush.

Color. Vividness and contrast. I find the abstract sexy, but once it's combined with something/someone, it takes too many shapes to define.

That being said, On nearly any occasion, I find someone (who can sing well) singing their heart out (to a song I know and love) very, very sexy.

Re: It's entirely different at so many times, based on mood.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Complexities. I see.

Song tends to touch deeply, as a rule. It's why the universe created itself...

[raoin.livejournal.com]

above all, confidence. not the sort of confidence that gets lorded over someone. but confidence in oneself and the abilty to spread that confidence to others. its being comfortable with yourself and the people around you. i dont poscess this trait which may be why i find it attractive in others. this will be apparent verbally, also in the way someone moves, in how they chose to present themselves, and how they interact with you. this is true for guys and girls.

...at one time i did have a much longer rant on my own journal about what i find sexy and how i feel about that. but that died with the vandilism done three summers ago...

physically i find clean lines sexy - strong jaw, strong profile - and well dressed (which does not explicitly mean expensive clothing, but it does mean neatly dressed - belt, tucked in shirt, clean clothes, clean teeth, clean hair, fresh breath). I'm especially attacted to a guy in a suit/tux a tie is also pleasing.

as an extension of clean lines, i like the curve of the neck, the line made just over the hips running into the groin, the small of the back, arches of the feet, and ears. where girls are concerned - if you have nice curves i will stare, i just cant help myself.

some people just smell good. if you smell good, i will want to bite you. if you let me bite you, i will want to do so often.

after that it tends to be all in the extended interaction. Some people write sexy - an unsual trait that i didnt notice until writing workshops. Other things like the ability to carry a conversation even when i'm being reticent are especially appreciable - more so would be the ability to coax me into conversation during one of those moods.

i could go on for ever. so i'll let it go at this.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Nicely put.

[tribeofone.livejournal.com]

Brains, girls with bad attitudes... however, from a purely visual perspective women that are my height, pale skin, fishnets, long skirts, curves,

it is interesting that you asked this question. I have been kicking around a few things lately in my head, primarily how little I understand the female of the species, how I really have no idea what women find sexy or attractive in men or in other women, let alone what drives them.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Many factors went into my choosing This question, above the others.

[djedhi.livejournal.com]

confidence, understanding, touch

laughing, truth, hippies

earth tones

when you can lean your head on them, they touch your head and sigh
talking to them, online, phone, in person
their breath on my lips
watching them walk away, knowing they will come back
being exhausted together, laying still and listening to their breath, feeling their warmth

knowing

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Knowing, in all its transitive forms, is definately sexy.

tha's dead sexeh

[karishi.livejournal.com]

On a physical level, I find control arousing. As some disturbed offshoot of that, the mental death of a person handing off all control to another is similarly arousing. I've got morals that prevent the enjoyment of this arousal, since in any situation where this kind of thing is actually happening I'll be spending the whole time attempting to prevent it. But the base is there.
I think it's by my blood that I'm attracted to the small, the black-haired, the pale, and/or the elfin-slender.
Interest, real interest, is dead-sexy. Someone saying with body language that they want to know more about one...Eye contact is big. But the actual attention, and engagement with the topics, is bigger.
By process of elimination, ability to keep up with my mind is sexy. If someone can't, I either start feeling contempt or guilt, and those kind of kill a mood dead.
So in my head, intelligence doesn't make you sexy. It prevents you from being found unsexy-stupid.
Innuendo I find oddly repulsive. I think it's because the speaker's talking circles around something important and...belittling it, is how it often feels. I'd rather hear dirty talk than innuendo if that's what it'll take to honestly express what's wanted.
Grace: A girl in control of her own body - a girl who moves the way she decides to - is very sexy indeed.
Huh. Now's I think about it, large breasts catch my eye but don't actually arouse me. A guy with a shiny necklace will get exactly the same kind of diffused attention from me.
There are many ways to approach this question, ain't there. I'd keep going but this is already kinda long and more importantly it's 2:30am.

Re: tha's dead sexeh

[wolven.livejournal.com]

You can turn anything into innuendo. The act of trying is what exxpresses the interest, which pleads to the honesty. I find that the game is only fun, if everyone knows the rules, and wants to play.

[scamort.livejournal.com]

A female who knows what they want.

A female who knows what they don't want and how to express that.

Athleticism. Not like buff or necessarily muscular, but definetly agile to a certain degree. Pretty eyes are a close second, so long as they look deep.

Intellegence and wit. The ability to provoke my mind into working is hot. I love heated debate on subjects that I'm familiar with, but only if the other is also familiar with it.

Open-Mindedness: if they are willing to at least give my tastes a try and accept them on their artistic value (not necessarily enjoy them, but just accept them), and are willing to show me what they enjoy on a day to day basis. There's a certain intimate quality to sharing one's everyday activities.


and that's enough of that. I'm through laying my soul bare.

don't hurt yourself.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

You have to open up, occasionally, so that people know there's something worth protecting, under there.

This Guy Said it Better than Me

[lupusfeuer.livejournal.com]

<a href="http://www.ernestcline.com/spokenword/Nerd_Porn_Auteur-Ernie_Cline.mp3>Nerds, nerds turn me on.</a>

Re: This Guy Said it Better than Me

[lupusfeuer.livejournal.com]

That was really strange. There was a link in that last post that doesn't seem to have shown up. So, here it is in plain text:

http://www.ernestcline.com/spokenword/Nerd_Porn_Auteur-Ernie_Cline.mp3

Re: This Guy Said it Better than Me

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Well said, indeed.

Re: This Guy Said it Better than Me

[wolven.livejournal.com]

How Zen.

[nausved.livejournal.com]

Hm. I can't really say what turns me on, but I can point out a few of the things that open me up to being able to be turned on.

Somehow I find social awkwardness in men very attractive. I think it's because I'm so shy and afraid of disappointing others; when I see someone else even worse about it than I am (at least toward me), then I feel more socially confident in myself. And, in this more confident state, I tend to hold a more dominant position (Hush! Not that kind of dominant!) in our friendship/relationship, and I also tend to become more protective and maternal around this guy. I really like being in control like this -- it's such a refreshing change of pace for me.

Eccentric people. The weirder you are, the better -- even if your tastes are the polar opposite of mine. I would salivate over a guy who thinks lederhosen are the height of fashion and who breeds moths as a hobby, for example.

Vegetarians -- and basically anyone else who holds similar principles to mine. There is something delicious about a man with moral conviction.

Guys who don't take themselves too seriously. They have to have a sense of humor -- I'm not asking that they be funny, but that they be able to take a joke. Not only that, but they must not be afraid to make a fool of themselves. I think this is why I always seem to fall for people who crossdress -- and are willing to parade around in public in their campy getup. Plus, the more you laugh and smile, the more physically attractive you are.

A natural appearance -- particularly as far as hair is concerned. I love long hair, in whatever state it comes in (straight, dreadlocks, afros, anything). I love facial hair (especially long, fluffy beards). Even body hair is generally a plus. In addition, I like loose, simple, bland-colored clothing. However, none of this is particularly decisive in my attraction to a person, except that it really draws my eye initially.

On a related note, everyone has a different smell, and some of these smells hold magical power over me. Other factors may initially attract me to you, but it's your smell that will hold me there when all the other interest is waning. Depending on a guy's natural scent, I greatly prefer the body's natural smell to the smell of deodorant -- so if someone is using deodorant, I prefer it to be scent-free or at least not very strong.

And, most of all, they must be attracted to me. Yeah, it helps with the confidence and self-esteem and all -- and there really is nothing sexier than being wanted. But developing an interest in someone else is a conscious effort on my part; I don't just automatically fall for someone. I only fall for people who give me attention and somehow reveal that they're interested in me (even if only as a good friend). They have to open my eyes to seeing them in that way, because otherwise the thought will never occur to me.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

You are only the second person to mention smell as a determining factor for attraction.

Lots of dichotomies, in that you say you like principles similar to yours, but will also be attracted to polar opposites. So is the nature of the similarity in that it is Passionate? Or that it is Like Yours?

[nausved.livejournal.com]

A lot of what I wrote seems to contradict -- such as being attracted to people who are socially awkward, but also being attracted to people who are socially confident enough to make a fool of themselves.

But I like people who hold a similar political/moral view to mine, but are quite extreme in their tastes (regardless of how like or unlike their tastes are to mine). The first must be so because I really can't stand people who I consider immoral. The second must be so because... I don't know. I just really look up to people who are oblivious to the rest of society (or simply don't care enough to take part). The friends, past and present, I look most fondly upon are those who have the most quirks.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Rhetorically: What if the person is extremely moral, simply in the complete opposite, of you?

And, yes, quirks are defiantely (meant "Definately," but I'll let it stand) a good thing.

[nausved.livejournal.com]

See, I wouldn't consider that person to be moral then. If I hold the view that everyone should be welcome to do as they please so long as they cause harm to no on else, then a person who holds a very different view would probably believe that either everyone should follow a set structure of life (for example, no gay marriage) OR that everyone should do what they want even at the expense of others (for example, a large corporation having the right to cheat its workers and consumers). I consider neither of these last two views moral, in any way, shape, or form -- even though the people who hold them probably believe themselves to be VERY moral.

In the case of what attracts me, only my version of morality applies.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

I see.

[jessicarabbitt.livejournal.com]

Fresh out of the shower, red hair damp and spikey, just pulled on some jeans and sprayed with cologne, looking up at a tall, skinny body and up into reddish brown eyes. Love. I've found that sex with someone I truly love is 1000000 times better. Nick. Mindless primal urges. God he turns me on. Back later....*runs off*

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Your body responds to chemical changes, interlockings of pheremone groups, and the activations of certain parts of the brain. It's chemical, emotional, spiritual, and perfect.

It's what it should be, if that's what you want.