Anonymous and Honest

[wolven7]

Stolen, Wholecloth:

"This message is addressed to everyone who is reading this post. I know there are communities for this nowadays, but people are a heck of a lot less likely to come to my journal and mock you, right? :)

"I want you to post anything that you want. Anything. Post a story, a secret, a confession, a fear, a love. Tell me something you've always wanted to tell me - whatever.

"Be sure to post anonymously and honestly. Post twice if you'd like, and then put this in your LJ to see what your friends have to say.

"(IP logging is turned off. Comments will be screened, but I may unscreen at my discretion. If you want something to remain screened, let me know and I will respect your wishes.)

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I worry that some of my best friends are too good for me. That I have these Terrible streaks of behaviour and of thought, and if they only knew, they'd be horrified.

And I wonder how many of them feel that way about the people in their lives, and what I can do to get them to tell me.

I have questions about what a "healthy" mental relationship with sex is.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Word.

[(Anonymous)]

I think you look hot in a suit. :D

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Thanks! I think I do, too. ;)

[(Anonymous)]

I have stopped being friends with my best friend. Everyone agrees I have good reason, although I suspect they all figure we'll make up some day later.

I'm sad and surprised that I don't miss my best friend at all. It would be horrifying and make me wonder about my stone heart except I don't care. This is the third time in the past five years I've stopped being friends with someone. And I didn't miss them either. We were ridiculously close for nigh on a decade.

What is wrong with me?

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Why would there be something wrong with you? You said it yourself: You have good reasons.

It seems to me that you have the ability to do what Taoist and Zen Masters struggle for years to be able to do: Let Go. When something is done and past, you don't hold onto to it, but your recognise that it's done, and you let it go. You are able to exist in the Present Moment.

Ask yourself this: Can you see the old times and be okay with what they gave you, even thought you've moved past them? Can you understand that they Were a part of you, and that they have helped to make you who you Are?

If the answer is yes, then the real question is "What's wrong with Everyone Else?"

[(Anonymous)]

Kids and adults all want you to act like an adult, once you're past the age of about 22. The only one who doesn't really want it is you.
At the same time, you don't want to grow up to be nothing, and that's what happens if a kid never accepts responsibility as he/she ages.
The term "idiot man-child" is the specter, the nightmare scratching at the back of your neck when you sit down for the evening's cartoons or games.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Do you think you can do both?

[(Anonymous)]

My best friend apparently doesn't care for me anymore, but they won't just tell me that. My other friends are advising me to wait, and not to confront, but the suspense is killing me. My heart is breaking, and this is the first time in 12 years that my friend has stopped talking to me so completely. I'm at a complete loss, and all I want to do is fix things, but my overtures have been rejected. Everything hurts.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Ask yourself these questions: Would you be able to accept an honest answer if it was given? If they told you that you had done something terrible, and that there was no way to fix it, would you accept it and leave it at that?

Keep in mind, I'm not saying that you have done something wrong. I'm not saying that there is no way to fix it. I'm asking: If that turns out to be the case, what will you do?

I would agree that an honest answer would be nice-- for closure, if nothing else-- but it may be that they don't think you'll understand why they've done what they're doing. If you can convey to them that you just want to know Why, and mean that, really mean it, deep down, then maybe they'll work with you on it.

Everything hurts, now. Understand that hurt, as much as you possibly can, and then ask yourself what their hurt is like.

Seek to understand, as best you can.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, to all of the above. I just want to know if it's the end of an era, or if time will heal things. If not, then I want to know so I can mourn and move on.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

I think that's perfectly reasonable. I hope that your friend gives you the perspective you need, so you can understand what needs to be,

[(Anonymous)]

I find myself turning into a hermit, reaching out less and less for human companionship. A medication I'm on has been making me feel less, as in I don't have feelings strongly if I have them at all. I'm about to up the dosage, and then once again soon, and I'm starting to wonder if I'll just quit feeling all together. Part of me doesn't care about this, because the apathy is already so strong.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

And did you bring this up with your prescribing physician? What did they say?

[(Anonymous)]

I promised when she prescribed it that I would wait the full 6-8 weeks to get it into my system to see if it works before I came back to her and said it wasn't working or that I didn't like it.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Fair enough. Good luck.