"I know what I want/ I want to stop seeing red"

[wolven7]

Sometimes I used to pretend to be disgusted by sexual practices other people in my social circle found disgusting, even if I was, in fact, curious or turned on by them.

Even though I don't do that, anymore, chances are I still won't step up to the plate and defend said.

Why not? Well that's the question, isn't it? Self-preservation, sure, but, honestly... That just reads like cowardice, today.

Today's an Android Lust and NIN. Kind of day.

Comments

[prosewitch.livejournal.com]

In the last year or two I've started leaping to defend other people's sexual practices that came up in conversation (as long as I found them defensible, so, there had to be some attention to safety/consent).

This largely came about from realizing that my sexual practices aren't acceptable to everyone out there, so I hope to goodness that someone's putting in a good word for me and my kind. Hence stepping up to the plate when I can.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

this is the place I want to get to. My preferences & interests certainly run the gammut from "non-standard-but-accepted" to "a-not-insignificant-number-of-people-are-freaked-out-by-that." So I feel the need to be more vocal in my defense.

[kitsuchan.livejournal.com]

I usually just say something like, "What's wrong with that? As long as everyone's consenting adults, how does it even concern you?"

There's also the thing I do when people trash-talk any invisible group: if it's a group that I'm a member of (bi/queer, mentally ill, southern, etc.), I'll say something like, "Um, I have ADHD and I'm pretty sure it's not imaginary..." or "I'm bi and I don't think it works that way..." and if it's not a group I'm a member of say something like "Um, for all you know, someone is this group is X and you just really hurt their feelings."

[wolven.livejournal.com]

That's actually a really useful tool. We of course have to be careful not to overgeneralize our own experience, but using it as a touchstone can possibly make people completely rethink their assumptions...

Thank you, for that.