It's Tuesday morning, and there's a spring rain

[wolven7]

David Bowie - [Hallo Spaceboy]--- It's Tuesday morning, and there's a spring rain, which means (it dioesn't mean this at all) that maybe I woke up feeling a little randy. That I woke up thinking about all of you, and sex.

Doesn't that ever happen you? You just wake up, one morning, and want to know intimate, dirty details about someone? Everyone you know?

I have questions for you, in the mean time (feel free to re-ask): What's the one sexual fantasy you've had, that you've never told any partner? The one thing that you've Really wanted to try, at least once, that has never crossed your lips or fingers in communicative transmission to anyone with whom you were intimate?

Have you ever had a sexual dream about me? (Oingo Boingo - [Stay]). If so, what was it?

Why don't we communicate our urges, I wonder? Why are we often not capable of trust enough to display these wants, and discuss them? Maybe you fear that something you want is dangerous to the nature of your relationship, or friendship. Maybe we're worried that they'll be disgusted by our wants, and will see us differently. I honestly don't know.

Mozart - [Symphony No. 36 in C Major 'Linz' K425: Poco adagio]--- I'm just here to ask you the awkward questions. I don't necessarily have all of the awkward answers. I make most of this shit up as I go along. Duck and move. If what I say happens to help, more often than it hurts, or to apply more often than it doesn't, it just because I've made myself get really good at that kind of thing. You can do it, too.

Please remember that.

Anyway. Questions. All comments are screened.

Haiku coming soon.

Comments

[tearsinger.livejournal.com]

Screened? Bah! I wanted to know too.

I used to have the problem of not telling my strange fetishes and desires and then I realized that I was sleeping with the wrong people --since I have changed that there is little I haven't tried or helped someone else try.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Also a perfectly suitable plan. Saves a lot of trouble, doesn't it?

[tearsinger.livejournal.com]

I had no idea how much trouble it saved and how much happier I was until it happened. :)

That and I am a big mouth and talk about everything -- so that makes it easier

[wolven.livejournal.com]

I honestly think that that's the best way to go. More communication is better than less.

Doesn't mean it always happens, though :\

u can unscreen this

[momentai.livejournal.com]

We talked about it all and tried e/t we could afford and felt like trying. I seriously doubt I could talk about it w/ someone else though, for the reasons you mention. Those are pretty big reasons.

We have never had sex together in a dream, but you have been in the room while I was having sex and you once gave me someone to have sex with. I don't remember seeing you have sex w/ someone, but I think I have seen you nude.

And yes, I am now asking you these questions.

Re: u can unscreen this

[wolven.livejournal.com]

Nothing that I haven't talked about, with the people with whom I've been in long relationships. I get pretty expressive and open, about these things. It may be an awkward in, yes, but there are ways around that, to get the conversation going.

And no, i don't think you've ever been in even a remotely sexual situation, in one of my dreams, yet.

Re: u can unscreen this

[momentai.livejournal.com]

"nothing we haven't talked about..."
So, does that mean there are things you haven't done that you haven't talked about?

Re: u can unscreen this

[wolven.livejournal.com]

There are always things undone. But that's down to disinterest, or simply not having the time or resources.

[lilsayermonster.livejournal.com]

I don't have any that I haven't told Chris. Thats part of why I'm marrying him, I can tell him anything.

And I think I did have one about you, but it was years and years ago, too long to remember the details. Maybe even high school.

I think people don't talk about this sort of thing because they're afraid the people they tell will take it as something they actually want to do and try to act on it. That could lead to all sorts of awkwardness. You can have thoughts and fantasies but not in a million years actually want to do them.

[wolven.livejournal.com]

That's strange to me, honestly, and I think it may say something about me. Most things I fantasize, and most people about whom I've fantasized, in the past, I want or have wanted to do. At least, if I've fantasized it more than once.

There are, of course, exceptions, but those are so extreme, for me, as to be far outside.